Facing the need for an end to my marriage was the most difficult decision of my life. Finances were not my only concern but they had been weighing heavily on me for a long time. My husband was financially successful. But trust had evaporated in our marriage. I had to do something.
In my emotional back and forth I felt it might be better to suck it up for the kids and stay home a little while longer. I was so frightened. I had a good education but who would hire me? I know my feelings were probably irrational, but I had been out of the workplace for many years. I felt emotionally pressed between two realities. On one hand I was nearly paralyzed by fear of the economics if my future was to be alone and I was terribly stressed knowing that the fear had trapped me in a relationship I knew wasn’t working. I knew that the distrust in my marriage couldn’t be repaired and THAT was harming my children.
I believe finding Heartland Family Mediators was a true blessing to me. During this fearful and uncertain time of my life, the professionals at Heartland Family Mediators were a source of knowledge and encouragement. They sensitively and patiently walked me through the mediation process until I fully understood each step and they did it objectively. They helped me understand that if my husband and I cooperated and continually focused on the interests of our children, I didn’t have to feel trapped, I could get thru this and thrive as a single mother. I don’t know for certain but my guess is if you asked my ex, he would say the same thing.
I do not know what future lies ahead. Surely there will be bumps in the road and financially things will be very different for me. But my ex and I get along better now than I expected. He is generous in taking care of the children both in terms of time and finances. I believe that is so mostly because the path we chose was mediation and not fighting over little things and communicating through attorneys in hateful ways. We focused on our children.
By my reckoning, the experienced and sensitive professionals at Heartland Family Mediators have demonstrated that peaceful divorce is possible. I am proof positive of that! Heartland Family Mediators has my highest recommendation.
L.